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When Holiday Visits Raise Concerns: What to Do If You Notice Changes in Your Aging Loved Ones
Author: Philippe Richer
The holiday season often brings extended time with family, and you might notice changes in your aging loved ones that weren’t apparent during shorter visits or phone calls. Perhaps Mom is struggling to follow conversations, or Dad’s house isn’t maintained to his usual standards. These observations, while concerning, can be an important wake-up call to plan for the future.
Common Signs That Warrant Attention
- Noticeable memory lapses beyond occasional forgetfulness
- Confusion with daily tasks or finances
- Unopened mail or unpaid bills
- Changes in personal hygiene or home maintenance
- Expired food in the fridge or pantry
- Difficulty following conversations or repeating stories
- Changes in mobility or frequent stumbling
While it’s natural to feel overwhelmed by these changes, there are practical steps you can take:
Start the Conversation Early
Don’t wait for a crisis. Have gentle, open discussions about the future while your loved ones can actively participate in planning. Focus on preserving their independence and dignity while ensuring their needs are met.
Document Your Concerns
Keep notes about specific incidents or changes you’ve observed. This information can be valuable when discussing the situation with healthcare providers and other family members.
Review Legal Documentation
Check if your loved ones have up-to-date:
- Powers of Attorney for property and personal care
- Wills
- Healthcare directives
- Emergency contacts
If these documents aren’t in place, now is the time to address them.
Planning for the Future
Taking action now can prevent crisis management later. Consider:
- Having a family meeting to discuss care options
- Researching local support services
- Understanding your loved ones’ wishes for future care
- Reviewing financial resources and options
We’re Here to Help
If you’re concerned about an aging loved one, we can help you put the right legal protections in place. From Powers of Attorney to healthcare directives, we’ll guide you through the process of ensuring your loved ones’ wishes are respected and their interests protected.
Contact us to discuss how we can help you plan for your loved ones’ future. Taking these steps now can bring peace of mind to the whole family.
