Who Should Carry the Torch? How to Choose the Right Executor

Writing a will means making a lot of decisions, and for many Manitobans, choosing an executor is the one that keeps them up at night. Not because the role is complicated to explain, but because it can feel like picking a favourite child.

Here’s a reframe worth considering: naming someone as executor isn’t an honour. It’s a job.

What Does an Executor Actually Do?

When someone passes away, their executor is responsible for carrying out the instructions in the will. In practical terms, that means locating and filing the will, notifying beneficiaries, managing the estate’s assets, dealing with financial institutions, paying outstanding debts and taxes, and eventually distributing what remains. It can take months and sometimes longer, depending on the complexity of the estate.

It’s meaningful work. But it’s also administrative, detail-heavy, and at times, stressful.

The Best Executor Isn’t Necessarily the Oldest

Many people default to naming their eldest child out of a sense of tradition or respect. But seniority isn’t a qualification. The better question to ask is: who in my life is organized, level-headed, and capable of handling paperwork and financial decisions, ideally without adding extra stress to their own life?

Geography matters too. An executor who lives locally in Manitoba can handle in-person tasks far more easily than one who lives out of province. Things like attending appointments, accessing documents, and dealing with Manitoba-based institutions are simply more manageable when you’re close by.

Talking to Your Family First

One of the most practical things you can do — before finalizing anything — is have a conversation with the person you’re considering. Being named executor without warning can be a significant surprise. Most people are willing to step up when asked, but they deserve the opportunity to understand what’s involved and to say yes (or no) with full information.

It’s also worth being transparent with your family about your choice. A brief explanation — “I chose your sister because she lives nearby and is good with finances” — can go a long way toward preventing the misunderstandings that sometimes follow a will reading.

A Good Starting Point

Thinking about who should be your executor is often what prompts people to finally get their will done, and that’s a good thing. If you’re not sure where to start, TLR Law offers straightforward guidance on wills and powers of attorney for Manitoba residents.

Give us a call at (204) 925-1900. We’re always in your corner.